1Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.
To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.
Where it sits. Gottman method, Create Shared Meaning
Islamic evidence
Call on Me and I will answer, God promises in the Qur'an, and the believers pray, Our Lord, give us joy in our spouses. To ask God for what weighs on them is love made into supplication.
“those who pray, ‘Our Lord, give us joy in our spouses and offspring. Make us good examples to those who are aware of You’”
Qur'an 25:74
“Your Lord says, ‘Call on Me and I will answer you; those who are too proud to serve Me will enter Hell humiliated.’”
Qur'an 40:60
“Narrated AbuSa'id and AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If a man awakens his wife at night, and then both pray or both offer two rak'ahs together, the (name of the )man will be recorded among those who mention the name of Allah, and the (name of the) woman…”
Psychological evidence
Praying for a partner has been shown to soften the heart toward them and increase goodwill. Holding their specific burden before God is one of the most intimate things you can do unseen.
Lambert, N.; Fincham, F.; Stillman, T.; Graham, S.; Beach, S. (2009). Psychological Science · doi
Prayer for the partner increased forgiveness.
Review detail
Why it works. Praying for a partner softens the heart and increases goodwill.