InInshirahislamically integrated self-help
ApproachEFT
Time60 seconds
MomentCelebration
1Be the first person your spouse wants to tell good news to, by delighting when they do.
EFTAnswering bids60 secondsQur'an 25:74

Meet their small wins with real, curious gladness, so you stay their first call.

Where it sits. EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), attachment-based couple intervention

Islamic evidence

The servants of the Merciful ask for joy in their spouses (Qur'an 25:74). To share your spouse's joy is to answer that prayer.

those who pray, ‘Our Lord, give us joy in our spouses and offspring. Make us good examples to those who are aware of You’

Qur'an 25:74

Psychological evidence

How you greet a partner's good news matters even more than how you meet their bad. Genuine delight makes you the one they most want to share joy with.

Johnson, S.M. (2019). Guilford

The originator's account of EFT as attachment-based practice.

Review detail

Why it works. Enthusiastic response to good news predicts a stronger bond than support in hard times.

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