1Tell your spouse plainly today that they matter to you, and why.
Not assumed, said. You matter to me, here is one reason. The heart needs to hear it.
Where it sits. EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), attachment-based couple intervention
Islamic evidence
The servants of the Merciful pray for joy in their spouses (Qur'an 25:74). To tell your spouse they matter is to give that joy words.
“those who pray, ‘Our Lord, give us joy in our spouses and offspring. Make us good examples to those who are aware of You’”
Qur'an 25:74
Psychological evidence
The deepest need is to know we matter to the one we love. Saying it plainly, and naming why, meets a hunger that silence leaves aching.
Johnson, S.M. (2019). Guilford
The originator's account of EFT as attachment-based practice.
Review detail
Why it works. Explicit affirmation of a partner's importance answers the core attachment need.