1Scan your body, unclench the jaw, drop the shoulders, soften the hands. Let the tension out on each breath.
Emotion tightens the body; the body can loosen the emotion back. Release the grip one part at a time.
Where it sits. DBT Distress Tolerance, TIP skills; physiological down-regulation
Islamic evidence
You, soul at peace (Quran 89:27). Softening the body is a way of listening back toward the settled soul.
“‘[But] you, soul at peace”
Qur'an 89:27
Psychological evidence
Gently attending to the body and releasing tension steadies the emotional response; loosening the clench in the body quiets the alarm the mind is running.
Arch, J. J. and Craske, M. G. (2006). Behaviour Research and Therapy · doi
Briefly focusing attention on the present, through the breath, steadies emotional responses to distressing material.
Review detail
Why it works. Deliberately relaxing tensed muscles, part by part, lowers the physical arousal that feeds the feeling.
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none yet2Soothe yourself through the senses: a warm drink, a soft cloth, a good scent, a slow walk. Be kind to the body.
When you cannot fix the feeling, comfort the one who is feeling it. Small kindnesses to the body settle the mind.
Where it sits. DBT, Distress Tolerance skills
Islamic evidence
Did He not find you an orphan and shelter you? (Quran 93:6). He sheltered you; sheltering yourself gently is an echo of His care.
“Did He not find you an orphan and shelter you”
Qur'an 93:6
Psychological evidence
Comforting yourself through the senses, warmth, softness, a pleasant scent, calms the body and eases distress; treating yourself kindly in the moment is itself a skill.
Neff, K. D. (2003). Self and Identity · doi
Treating oneself with kindness rather than harsh judgement supports emotional resilience and wellbeing.
Review detail
Why it works. Gentle sensory self-soothing calms the nervous system and makes a hard feeling more bearable.