1Let one trustworthy person in slowly. Trust is rebuilt in small, safe steps, not all at once.
You do not owe everyone access, and you do not have to stay walled off forever. One safe person, by degrees.
Where it sits. Stage 3, Reconnection (Herman); safe relationships
Islamic evidence
By an act of mercy from God, you were gentle with them; had you been harsh they would have dispersed (Quran 3:159). Gentleness, in yourself and from others, is what gathers a wary heart back.
“By an act of mercy from God, you [Prophet] were gentle in your dealings with them- had you been harsh, or hard-hearted, they would have dispersed and left you- so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them. Consult with them about matters, then, when you have…”
Qur'an 3:159
Psychological evidence
Feeling safely supported by even one person buffers the impact of what happened and slowly rebuilds trust. Safety with others returns in small, tested steps.
Cohen, S. and Wills, T. A. (1985). Psychological Bulletin · doi
Perceived social support buffers individuals against the harmful impact of stressful life events.
Review detail
Why it works. Gradually experiencing safe, supportive connection rebuilds the trust that harm damaged.