1Wanting comfort when you are hurting is a built-in human need, not a weakness to be ashamed of. Let yourself ask.
The urge to seek closeness and reassurance in distress is wired into us from childhood. Honouring that need, rather than judging it, is part of how the nervous system settles after something hard.
Where it sits. Attachment theory: proximity-seeking as an innate way to regulate distress
Islamic evidence
Who is it that answers the distressed when they call upon Him, and removes their suffering? (Quran 27:62). The One who answers the distressed made the very cry for help part of how we are meant to be.
“Who is it that answers the distressed when they call upon Him? Who removes their suffering? Who makes you successors in the earth? Is it another god beside God? Little notice you take”
Qur'an 27:62
Psychological evidence
Attachment research finds that reaching for closeness and comfort in times of threat is an innate survival response, present from the cradle to the grave. Traumatized people who can recognize and seek support, trusting they will receive it, fare far better than those who believe they must face it all alone.
Greenman, P. S. and Johnson, S. M. (2012). Journal of Clinical Psychology · doi
Safe, responsive emotional bonds buffer people against posttraumatic stress and support recovery, while a lack of social support is among the strongest risk factors for PTSD.
Review detail
Why it works. Seeking comfort from a safe other in distress is an innate regulating strategy, not a flaw or a failure of strength.