1Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.
Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.
Where it sits. Gottman method, Turn Toward; Rituals of Connection
Islamic evidence
Kindness in word and manner to those closest was central to the Prophet ﷺ's character. Telling someone plainly that you are here is a small kindness of clarity.
“Do not go near the orphan’s property, except with the best [intentions], until he reaches the age of maturity. Honour your pledges: you will be questioned about your pledges”
Qur'an 17:34
“Anas narrated:that "I served the Prophet for ten years. He never said Uff and never blamed me by saying: 'Why did you do so' or why did you not do so?' And the Messenger Of Allah had the best character among all of the people. I never touched Khazz nor silk,…”
Psychological evidence
People stop reaching for a partner who feels unreachable. Naming your presence, that you are here and for how long, removes the guesswork and makes it safe to come close.
Reis, H. (2004). Interdisciplinary research on close relationships: The case for integration.
PPR as the active ingredient common to healthy relationships.
Review detail
Why it works. Clear availability lets a partner feel safe to reach for you.