1Take ten quiet minutes to decompress before you walk in the door.
Arriving already softened means the day's stress is not spent on the person you love.
Where it sits. Gottman method, Manage Conflict
Islamic evidence
Gentleness, the Prophet ﷺ said, beautifies whatever it touches. Ten quiet minutes are how you arrive gentle, instead of spending the day's tension on the people you love.
“By an act of mercy from God, you [Prophet] were gentle in your dealings with them- had you been harsh, or hard-hearted, they would have dispersed and left you- so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them. Consult with them about matters, then, when you have…”
Qur'an 3:159
“It was narrated from Aishah that the Prophet(ﷺ) said:"Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness in all things”
Psychological evidence
Stress does not stay at work; it rides home and colours how you read the person at the door. A short buffer keeps today's pressure from being paid by them.
Neff, L.; Karney, B. (2004). Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin · doi
External stress worsens evaluation of relationship problems independent of the problems.
Karney, B.; Bradbury, T. (1995). Psychological Bulletin · doi
Vulnerability-Stress-Adaptation model.
Review detail
Why it works. A buffer between stress and reunion keeps strain from leaking onto a partner.