1Validate your own feeling first: of course this stung. You do not need permission to feel it.
Do not add self-blame on top of a hard feeling. Let it be real, then decide what to do.
Where it sits. DBT, validation skills (GIVE)
Islamic evidence
Moses said, Lord, lift up my heart (Quran 20:25). Even a prophet asked for his heart to be eased; your feeling is allowed a place.
“Moses said, ‘Lord, lift up my heart”
Qur'an 20:25
Psychological evidence
Meeting your own emotion with acknowledgement and kindness, rather than judgement, calms it and steadies you; fighting the feeling tends to prolong it.
Neff, K. D. (2003). Self and Identity · doi
Treating oneself with kindness rather than harsh judgement supports emotional resilience and wellbeing.
Review detail
Why it works. Acknowledging your own feeling with kindness settles it faster than arguing yourself out of it.
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