1Once today, ask about a stress from outside the two of you, then just listen. No fixing.
Twenty minutes on their side. Your only job is to understand and be on their team.
Where it sits. Gottman method, Turn Toward Instead of Away
Islamic evidence
God made your spouse a place of rest, and placed love and mercy between you (Qur'an 30:21). The home is where a person comes in from the world's strain.
“Another of His signs is that He created spouses from among yourselves for you to live with in tranquillity: He ordained love and kindness between you. There truly are signs in this for those who reflect”
Qur'an 30:21
Psychological evidence
External stress goes somewhere. Given a reliable place to unload it together, it stops coming out sideways at the person nearest you.
Gottman, J.; Coan, J.; Carrere, S.; Swanson, C. (1998). Journal of Marriage and the Family · doi
Newlywed interaction patterns; accepting influence; soft start-up.
Review detail
Why it works. A shared outlet for external stress keeps it from leaking into the relationship.