1When you are ready, face the hard memory in small, bearable doses, with support, not all at once and not never.
Avoiding forever keeps the fear alive; flooding yourself re-wounds. Small, chosen doses are how it loses its grip.
Where it sits. Stage 2, Remembrance and Mourning (Herman); titrated exposure
Islamic evidence
God will be enough for those who put their trust in Him; God has set a due measure for everything (Quran 65:3). There is a measured pace to this; you do not face it alone or all at once.
“and will provide for them from an unexpected source; God will be enough for those who put their trust in Him. God achieves His purpose; God has set a due measure for everything”
Qur'an 65:3
Psychological evidence
Fear fades when you approach what you fear in a safe, manageable way rather than avoiding it. Small chosen doses, with support, are how the memory stops running you.
Foa, E. B. and Kozak, M. J. (1986). Psychological Bulletin · doi
Fear fades when a person approaches what they fear in a safe, manageable way rather than avoiding it.
Review detail
Why it works. Approaching a feared memory in safe, manageable steps lets the fear fade, where avoidance keeps it charged.