1Take the sorrow you cannot say to anyone else and pour it out to God, in your own plain words.
You do not have to hold it alone or find the right phrase. Say the raw thing to the One who already knows it.
Where it sits. Dual Process Model, loss orientation (Stroebe and Schut)
Islamic evidence
Yaqub said, I plead my grief and sorrow before God (Quran 12:86). The place for the sorrow you cannot speak aloud is before Him.
“He said, ‘I plead my grief and sorrow before God. I have knowledge from God that you do not have”
Qur'an 12:86
Psychological evidence
Putting a painful experience into words, rather than holding it in, is linked to better health and adjustment over time. Naming the grief lightens it.
Pennebaker, J. W. (1997). Psychological Science · doi
Putting emotional experiences into words improves health and psychological adjustment.
Review detail
Why it works. Putting grief into words, especially to God, relieves the pressure of carrying it silently.