InInshirahislamically integrated self-help
ThemeKeep the bond
Time20 minutes
1Choose one good thing the person did and carry it forward in your own life this week.
Grief therapyKeep the bond20 minutesQur'an 28:77

A habit of theirs kept alive, a kindness they showed passed on, keeps their good present in the world.

Where it sits. Continuing Bonds (Klass, Silverman and Nickman)

Islamic evidence

Do good to others as God has done good to you (Quran 28:77). Passing on their goodness is how their light keeps reaching people.

Seek the life to come by means of what God has granted you, but do not neglect your rightful share in this world. Do good to others as God has done good to you. Do not seek to spread corruption in the land, for God does not love those who do this,’

Qur'an 28:77

Psychological evidence

Carrying forward what a lost person valued is a healthy way to keep the bond, channelling grief into something that still grows. The relationship continues through what you do.

Klass, D., Silverman, P. R. and Nickman, S. L. (1996). Taylor and Francis

Bereaved people maintain adaptive, ongoing inner bonds with the deceased rather than fully detaching.

Review detail

Why it works. Continuing a loved one's goodness turns the bond into something living rather than only mourned.

Grief and lossEverydayscholar review pendinggrief-05-carry-their-good

Feedback

none yet
On: