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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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What you are actually defending 1 Choosing your response 1

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Any ordinary day 187Under stress 95 After a row 50 In a change 3 Coming and going 2 Something good 1 When apart 1

Your body gets up in the morning and your mind often does not. Half a day can go by in a sort of waking dream, and whatever meets you in it gets the sleepwalker's answer.

So make waking the moment you decide something, before the day has handed you anything to react to. Thirty seconds on the edge of the bed will do:…

A minuteChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 24:22

Some situations genuinely run on how you are seen. A job interview, a court hearing, a first meeting with in-laws: the image matters there, and it is honest to say so.

The claim is only that most of life is not one of those, and that the fear of disrespect is far larger than its actual cost. Keeping the exceptions…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 4:135