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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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This is not a milestone you pass. The two year old's version goes, then a version comes back at twenty two, and again at fifty two, wearing whatever clothes that stage of life provides.
So think maintenance rather than course completion. When conditions change, a new baby, a new manager, an illness in the family, expect the old…
If you swallow it all day at work and it comes out at home, home is not where the problem is. It is just the safest place to put it down.
Anger lands where retaliation costs least, which usually means on the people who will forgive you. Two things help more than trying to be calmer at…
The years you spent angry are not written off. The drive that wrecked things is the same drive available now for putting things right.
This is not a way of saying the damage was worth it. It is about what is still in your hands. People who have hurt others through their temper often…