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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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2 practicesTheme · The fear underneath anger
How long you have · Longer
Approach · Core
If anger is fear in armour, then what works on fear is what works on anger: go towards the thing in small doses, stay a little longer each time, and let your body collect evidence.
That is a different project from clamping down, and it moves in a different direction. The situations you have quietly organised your life around…
There are two kinds of work on anger, and the order matters. Plain skills for the moment come first, and the larger questions about what your life is for can wait.
Going deep too early tends to backfire. If someone still cannot interrupt a flare, an honest conversation about meaning or forgiveness becomes one…