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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Making it stick Core Twenty minutes Clear all

Theme · Making it stick

What anger actually is 10 The fear underneath anger 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 The moment before you snap 3 Equanimity and perspective 2 Making it stick 2 Choosing your response 1 What you are actually defending 1 Cool the body first 1

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 6 Five minutes 6 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 3

Approach · Core

Core 2 Mindfulness 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 Under stress 1

Knowing something calmly and feeling it are two separate achievements, and the second takes longer. If you can say the reasonable thing but it does not touch how you feel, you are partway, not failing.

The gap does not close by arguing with yourself harder. It closes by living it: doing the practice in real situations, in your body, while the…

Twenty minutesMaking it stickCoreQur’an 87:8

When something is genuinely alive for the person in front of you, work with that. Whatever you had planned to cover keeps until a quieter week.

Teaching over the top of live feeling does not land, and it tells the other person that your agenda outranks their week. When there is heat, follow…

Twenty minutesMaking it stickCoreQur’an 18:23