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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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3 practicesTheme · The moment before you snap
How long you have · Twenty minutes
Approach · Core
To react is to act again. Some of what fires in you belongs to an older scene, and the person in front of you has simply walked into it.
This is not a way of excusing what you do, it is a way of aiming the work. When a reaction is far bigger than the moment deserves, ask what it…
In a bad moment your attention, your seeing and your remembering all narrow onto the threat. So your memory of the row is a partial recording, and so is theirs.
Worth holding on to before you go back over who said what. Neither of you is necessarily lying when the two accounts differ. Starting with here is…
If waiting has always been hard for you, and your attention has always been restless, that belongs in the anger picture rather than in a separate story.
Irritability, reactivity and a mind that will not settle often arrive as a set. Working on the anger while ignoring the attention leaves the ground…