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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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4 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Approach · Medical and treatment
When · Any ordinary day
Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.
What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…
Feeling close to your own people does not automatically make you kinder to everybody else. Sometimes it does the opposite and sharpens the line between us and them.
This is worth watching in yourself, particularly if you are the sort who gets angry on behalf of a group. The same warmth that makes you loyal can…
The advice to touch, to eat together, to move your body, to say the true thing out loud stands up perfectly well without the hormone story attached.
Explanations that hang on a single chemical are memorable and usually too tidy, and the studies behind the popular version are often small. None of…
Telling somebody one thing you are quietly embarrassed about will bring you closer than a month of pleasant conversation.
It does not have to be dramatic. The worry you have never said out loud, the mistake you still think about at night, the thing you are no good at.…