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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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22 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Approach · Body based
Give yourself an instruction you can rehearse. Copy one thing about how the other person is holding themselves, once a day, and notice what follows.
Advice like be more understanding gives you nothing to practise. Advice like match their pace when they speak gives you something you can do on a…
Repeating back what your partner said proves you were listening. It does not prove you were touched by it, and they can tell the difference.
Reflective listening can be done perfectly and still land cold, because the words check the content while your face and body report that nothing…