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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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2 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Approach · Trauma informed
When · Any ordinary day
Nobody sat you down and taught you what to be afraid of. You picked it up from whatever happened around you, and you are carrying a set of alarms you never agreed to.
Two things stay true at the same time here. The learning was not your fault, and the response is still yours to handle. Holding both keeps you out of…
The part of you that flares learned to do it without a teacher, at a time when reading danger fast actually mattered. It is out of date now. It was never stupid.
If you can look at the reaction as an old protection rather than a defect, you can retire it without going to war with yourself, and wars with…