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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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Approach · Trauma informed
Working out where your reaction came from will not switch it off. That is not a failure of your insight, it is simply how the two kinds of memory work.
The story you can tell sits in one system. The flinch sits in another one, older and quicker, and it never learned from explanations. Which means the…
Every incident you get through without looking at it leaves something behind, a charge that goes off a bit quicker next time. Asking for help early is not making a drama of it, it is cheaper than the version that comes later.
People assume an escalating pattern means they are becoming a worse person. More often it means the same route has been practised a few more times…