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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme · Making it stick
What anger actually is 22Equanimity and perspective 14The fear underneath anger 12Cool the body first 9The moment before you snap 7Choosing your response 7Practising under provocation 6When anger turns to harm 3Growing empathy 2Making it stick 2What you are actually defending 2Anger, alcohol and the body 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 1
Approach
Core 1Mindfulness 1
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 24Under stress 6After a row 2In a change 1

If you held back at four o'clock and then snapped at seven, the holding back still happened. A later slip does not reach backwards and cancel it.

All or nothing scoring is the quickest route from one lapse to giving the whole thing up: I lost it, so none of it was working, so why bother. Count…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 18:24

The old angry route does not get deleted. What you are building is a rival route beside it, and at the start the new one is small.

Expect the old path to show up when you are tired, ill or caught off guard, because it is still there and it is well worn. That is not proof the work…

Five minutesMaking it stickCoreQur’an 11:115