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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

What anger actually is 22 Equanimity and perspective 14 The fear underneath anger 12 Cool the body first 9 Choosing your response 7 The moment before you snap 7 Practising under provocation 6 When anger turns to harm 3 Growing empathy 2 What you are actually defending 2 Making it stick 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1

When · After a row

Any ordinary day 13 Under stress 3 After a row 1

That flash of temper when someone meets a fact that undoes their story is not stupidity. It is a mind defending its own shape, which is a real need rather than a shameful one.

Say this to yourself before you say anything to them, because contempt carries in the voice even when it stays out of the words. Being wrong and not…

Five minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 2:286