Anger

A certain wariness is standard equipment. Nothing in this work is trying to leave you soft and open to whatever comes along.

People often hesitate here because it sounds like being asked to stop protecting themselves. The opposite is nearer the truth: you keep the guard and…

Some of what you will hear about anger is solid, and some is a teacher's own theory delivered with the same confidence. It is fair to ask which one you are getting.

The tell is usually the scale of the claim. Careful accounts stay near what has been measured, while a grand story explaining everything from cells…

Muttering under your breath is not nothing. It is the quiet end of the same behaviour as raising your voice, a small warning shot that costs you almost nothing to fire.

A dog growling at something it is unsure about is doing the same job. The useful part is that the mutter arrives early, well before any shouting,…

Not every bit of anger is a problem to be solved. Two people squaring up over something that matters, or a mother going hard at whatever threatens her child, is anger doing exactly what it is for.

Having somewhere to put ordinary anger stops you treating all of it as damage. If it fits what happened, says something true, and ends when the…

Respect comes from the Latin for looking, with the prefix meaning again. It is literally the second look, the head that turns as somebody important walks past.

Knowing that does something useful. A word that felt close to sacred turns into a plain social behaviour you can examine: who gets looked at twice,…

Your mind is always slightly behind what is happening. Reality moves and you are the response, which leaves you permanently a step late and permanently not quite sure.

Put that way, uncertainty is not a flaw in your thinking, it is the position you are standing in. You are flying into the next moment without having…