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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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8 practicesTheme · Cool the body first
How long you have · A minute
Approach
When · Any ordinary day
Trace a slow circle with your finger, on your knee or in the air, once a day. One a day is the whole prescription, which is why it survives contact with real life.
A small movement done daily becomes a handle. After a few weeks the gesture starts to bring a little of the settled state with it, and you can use it…
Rest your fingertips against one another and let your attention go to the place where they meet. It is a small piece of contact that is always available to you.
Anger sharpens the line between you and everything outside your skin, and everything on the far side of that line starts looking like a threat or an…
An open hand has meant coming unarmed for a very long time. If that meaning does something for you, keep it. If it does not, the gesture still works.
Some people find a practice sticks better when it stands for something they already care about, like refusing to cause harm, or showing up with…
The out breath is the part that quiets things down. Cells in the brain's alarm centres behave differently across the two phases of a breath, and breathing out is the calming side of that cycle.
This is why nearly every breathing technique that works has a long exhale somewhere inside it. You do not need the anatomy to use it, but knowing why…
You already own this one. Let out a sigh of relief right now, on purpose, and notice that your body knew exactly what to do.
Most people wait for the sigh to arrive by itself at the end of a hard hour. It does not have to be the last thing that happens. Doing one…
You may hear that humming floods you with nitric oxide and drops your blood pressure. Humming does raise nitric oxide in the nose. The rest of that sentence is a leap.
It is worth being careful with this, because a practice sold on a dramatic mechanism gets dropped when the mechanism turns out to be shaky. Hum…
Say out breath, not breath. Told to take a signal breath, most people pull air in hard, which stirs them up rather than settling them.
This is a small wording change that decides whether the technique works. Whether you are teaching someone else or reminding yourself, put the phase…
Anger pulls your attention towards whatever provoked it, the way a vacuum cleaner pulls at a curtain. Naming it that way makes it something happening to you rather than something wrong with you.
Rumination is an accurate word and a heavy one, and people who already feel judged tend to close up when it appears. A picture does the same job…