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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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3 practicesTheme · Practising under provocation
How long you have · Twenty minutes
Steadiness under provocation is built the way immunity is, in small doses taken on purpose, at a size you can still handle. Waiting for a real fight to test yourself is too big a dose to learn anything from.
In practice that means choosing something that stings a little and staying with it rather than swerving: the colleague whose tone you brace against,…
What you are proudest of will tell you where you are most easily wounded. The two grow on the same root.
Write down two or three things you would hate to be thought about you, then look at where they meet your ordinary week. Who is likely to imply it, in…
Go to the gym without the getting ready. No mirror check, no fixing your hair, just train and come home.
This works because it lands exactly where many people quietly keep their worth, and because the real consequences are nil. Nobody there is thinking…