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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism
The moment before you snap 10Cool the body first 8When anger turns to harm 6Choosing your response 5The fear underneath anger 5Equanimity and perspective 4What anger actually is 4Growing empathy 2Practising under provocation 2Making it stick 1What you are actually defending 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1
How long you have · Five minutes
A minute 2Five minutes 1
When · Under stress
Any ordinary day 9Under stress 1After a row 1

When something is genuinely wrong, try saying the whole sentence: this is wrong, it should not be like this, and it is. Then ask how it came to be, before asking what to do.

The word should keeps you in the courtroom, where the only available outcome is a verdict. Asking why moves you into how the thing actually happened,…

Five minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 49:9