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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Cool the body first Twenty minutes Under stress Clear all

Theme · Cool the body first

Cool the body first 2 Choosing your response 2 Making it stick 1 Equanimity and perspective 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 21 Five minutes 8 Twenty minutes 2

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 2 After a row 2

Squeeze the hand, hold it for a few seconds, then let it go slowly. The letting go is where the calm is, and it works better once you have practised the long version.

Full muscle relaxation, working through the body group by group, takes about twenty minutes and is worth doing a handful of times. Once your body…

Twenty minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 20:14

Movement can settle you or wind you further up, and the difference is mostly what your mind is doing while you move.

Pacing the kitchen while you build the case against someone keeps the whole system revved. The same twenty minutes spent counting breaths or noticing…

Twenty minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 13:28