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Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

The moment before you snap 39 Choosing your response 36 Cool the body first 34 What anger actually is 26 The fear underneath anger 22 Equanimity and perspective 17 Growing empathy 14 Making it stick 14 Practising under provocation 14 What you are actually defending 6 When anger turns to harm 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1

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Certainty feels good. That sudden clean sense of knowing exactly who is in the wrong is part of what keeps anger coming back, so it is worth noticing as a pleasure rather than as proof.

Anger tidies things up. The doubt goes, the mixed feelings go, and for a moment you know where you stand. Take that away without putting anything in…

A minuteRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 53:32

When someone is in full flood, leaving is allowed. Getting out of the way of a person who is past listening is a skill, not a defeat.

You can say where you are going and that you will come back to it, which keeps it from reading as punishment. This matters most for anyone who was…

A minuteRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 42:41