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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme · The fear underneath anger
What anger actually is 103The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Equanimity and perspective 68Cool the body first 65The fear underneath anger 61Practising under provocation 46Growing empathy 36Making it stick 33What you are actually defending 24Righteous anger and perfectionism 17When anger turns to harm 15Anger, alcohol and the body 8
How long you have
A minute 22Five minutes 29Twenty minutes 6Longer 4
Approach
Core 54Trauma informed 7
When
Any ordinary day 31Under stress 18After a row 12

There are two kinds of work on anger, and the order matters. Plain skills for the moment come first, and the larger questions about what your life is for can wait.

Going deep too early tends to backfire. If someone still cannot interrupt a flare, an honest conversation about meaning or forgiveness becomes one…

LongerThe fear underneath angerCoreQur’an 106:4