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Anger

Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.

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Theme · Choosing your response
What anger actually is 103The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Equanimity and perspective 68Cool the body first 65The fear underneath anger 61Practising under provocation 46Growing empathy 36Making it stick 33What you are actually defending 24Righteous anger and perfectionism 17When anger turns to harm 15Anger, alcohol and the body 8
How long you have
A minute 36Five minutes 35Twenty minutes 4Longer 6
Approach
Core 47Mindfulness 21CBT 7Gottman 6
When
Any ordinary day 45Under stress 28After a row 7Coming and going 1

Changing how you react is two jobs, not one: loosening the old response and building the new one. Most people only do the second and then wonder why the old one keeps winning.

The new response is usually fine in calm conditions and then vanishes the moment your pulse is up, because the old one is still there, faster and far…

LongerChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 29:45