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Worry and anxiety
Anxiety is not a character flaw and it is not weak faith. It is a body doing what it was built to do, at a moment when it is not needed. The practices here work on the loop itself: what worry promises and never delivers, what avoiding costs you, and how to let the body come down.
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3 practicesTheme · Living with uncertainty
How long you have · Five minutes
Listen for the condition you have attached to acting: I will apply once I know I will get it, I will go once I know I will like it. If that condition could never actually be met, it is not caution, it is a door you have quietly locked.
From the inside it rarely feels like avoidance. It feels sensible, even responsible, because who would go to all that trouble without knowing. The…
A no is usually information about fit rather than a report on your worth. Some of them have to happen before you can tell which places are right for you.
This is a real reframe rather than a comforting one, because a rejection does carry usable information: about what they were after, about what you…
When a decision feels impossible, put a date on it rather than pressing for the commitment. We will try this and look at it again in three months turns a life sentence back into a choice.
Plenty of people hear any decision as permanent, so picking a course or a job or a city feels like sentencing themselves to it. A review date changes…