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Worry and anxiety
Anxiety is not a character flaw and it is not weak faith. It is a body doing what it was built to do, at a moment when it is not needed. The practices here work on the loop itself: what worry promises and never delivers, what avoiding costs you, and how to let the body come down.
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24 practicesTheme · The cost of avoiding
How long you have
When · Any ordinary day
You cannot outbid a bedroom with unlimited gaming and a free afternoon. Free access has to shrink before an earned version means anything at all.
With an older teenager this goes better as a conversation about arrangements than about character: the wifi and the console sit behind the school…
A chart imposed on a fifteen year old will be beaten, ignored or fought. Agree the terms with them instead, in a conversation where they can genuinely change something.
Ask what they think would help, what they would want in return, and what feels unfair about the current version. You are not handing over the goal,…
If escape is holding the pattern in place, the plan closes off the escape a step at a time. If what waits at home is holding it, the plan moves those good things to the other side of the effort.
Most stuck cases are stuck because only one half was addressed. A careful ladder of steps does very little while the afternoon at home is still the…
If a child is at home, run the day as though it were a school day. Same wake time, same breakfast, bag packed, work starting when lessons would have started.
Ten hours of sleep followed by a slow morning turns home into somewhere far nicer than school, and a body clock that drifts later makes the next…