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Worry and anxiety
Anxiety is not a character flaw and it is not weak faith. It is a body doing what it was built to do, at a moment when it is not needed. The practices here work on the loop itself: what worry promises and never delivers, what avoiding costs you, and how to let the body come down.
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3 practicesTheme · Obsessions and compulsions
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Obsessive thoughts and compulsions respond well to a specific kind of therapy. What is here is for understanding them, not for treating them by yourself.
Try not to talk the worry through in detail, even with someone kind. Going over the specifics feels like sorting it out, and it is closer to watering it.
Mental review and asking for reassurance are the same move in different clothes. Both give a short drop in distress and a stronger pull next time.…
When the words for feelings are not there, ask for a number instead. How much did the handwashing take over this week, one to ten, is a question someone can answer on a bad day.
A number asks far less of a person than a description, which matters when putting feelings into language is hard for them, and you still end up with…
Agree a short phrase to use at home. Saying I am having OCD worries tells a parent what is going on without handing them the worry to solve.
Once a parent hears the details they will nearly always try to help by answering, and answering is the thing that feeds it. A label gives them…