Worry and anxiety

Your alarm learned from something real, then started answering to things that merely resemble it. A rustle in the grass gets the same jolt as the animal that first taught you to run.

It helps to say to yourself, that was the sound, not the thing. The response is not stupid. It was built from a real event and it spread to whatever…

When the alarm takes over, the reasoning part of you goes quiet for a while. That is not you losing your mind. It comes back on its own.

People often frighten themselves twice: once with whatever set them off, and again with the sense that they have lost control of their own head.…

Watch for the moment a what if turns into a when. That small slide, from a possibility into something you can already picture in detail, is where worry does most of its damage.

The detail is what convinces you. Your mind supplies the phone call, the face, the exact words, and the body answers the picture as though it were…

Listen for the words I can't. When anxiety is doing the talking, that phrase turns up long before any evidence does. Let us try and see is the same situation with the door left open.

You do not have to argue yourself into confidence. Swap the verdict for a smaller sentence: I do not know yet. Then take one step that would actually…

There is a small gap between something happening and the story you tell yourself about it. That gap is the cheapest place to step in.

Once the story is running the body is already going and everything gets harder. So build one small habit at the front end: a slow breath out when the…

A car coming at you and a spider across the room set off the same alarm. Naming which one you are facing, before you act on it, is a skill worth practising.

Say it plainly to yourself: this is dangerous, or this is uncomfortable. Both are true of different things and the second does not require you to…