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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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When · Any ordinary day
At the end of a stretch of thinking like this, ask yourself plainly what you believe about yourself now, and how that differs from an hour ago.
Shifts that go unnamed tend to have evaporated by the evening. Saying the new version aloud, or writing a single sentence of it, turns it into…
Notice the standard you are holding yourself to, then ask whether you would hold anybody else to it. If what you blame yourself for happened when you were a child, ask honestly whether a child could have carried that.
Shame usually rests on a rule that was never said out loud, something along the lines of I should have known, or I should have stopped it. Written…
Picture somebody you love saying this exact thought about themselves. What would you say back, and why is none of that available to you?
Most of us are far kinder outward than inward, and the kind version is usually the more accurate one as well as the warmer one. Say your answer to…
A belief about yourself comes with a feeling somewhere in the body, an emotion, and a set of things you then do or avoid. Argue only with the words and the rest of it carries on exactly as before.
This is the gap behind I know it is not true but I do not feel it. Next time you catch the belief, note where it sits physically, what emotion turned…
A belief you have carried since childhood will not fall over because you asked it a good question this afternoon. You are planting something, not winning an argument.
The temptation, once a thought starts to look flimsy, is to press harder, and pressing usually makes the belief dig in. Leave the question where it…