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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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3 practicesTheme · When you go numb
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When · After a row
Ask what is happening in the body right now, in the moment it happens, rather than asking afterwards what the feeling was.
A shutdown is quickest to catch while it is switching on. The question that works is small and physical: what is happening in your chest, your…
The same sentence lands completely differently depending on who says it. If nothing stirs when it is described second hand, let the person it belongs to say it to you directly.
A therapist repeating what your partner said is information. Your partner turning to you and saying it, in their own voice, is an event. That is why…
Rather than arguing with someone who says they feel nothing, say plainly what would ordinarily hurt about it. Hearing that the person you love is disappointed in you is a hard thing to hear.
Said warmly, this is not a challenge. It sets out what a person would usually feel and leaves them to notice the gap between that and what they are…