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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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3 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Approach · Emotionally focused
When · Any ordinary day
You do not need a long list of feeling words. Half a dozen you can actually reach for under pressure will do more than forty you have to look up.
Angry, sad, afraid, ashamed, surprised, glad is enough to start with, and most hard moments are some mixture of the first four. The aim is not to…
If someone is saying so much that you have lost the thread, stop them kindly and check. Sorry, that is a lot and it matters, can I say back what I have got so far.
It feels rude and it is usually received as the opposite, because it says the words were worth keeping. Listening while quietly drowning helps…
When someone goes quiet and you can see they have gone inside, that is not your moment to help. Stay still and let the silence run.
You will feel the pull to summarise, to check they are alright, to bring the other person back in. All of it lands as an interruption. Give it a few…