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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
Narrowed down
2 practicesTheme · Shame
How long you have
Approach · Emotionally focused
When · Any ordinary day
You did not choose which things hurt you. Where you are tender was set long before you had any say in it, and the only live question is what you do with it now.
This is worth saying out loud between two people, because each usually thinks their own soft spot is embarrassing and the other's is obvious. Try…
With someone deep in shame, your steady presence is not the warm up before the useful part. It is the useful part.
That means resisting the urge to fix, to explain the psychology of it, or to hurry them along to a better feeling. Sit at their pace. Keep your tone…