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Low mood and hard feelings

Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.

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Emotionally focused A minute Under stress Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 2 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 2

Approach · Emotionally focused

Mindfulness 9 DBT skills 4 Trauma informed 3 Core 2 Parts work 2 Emotionally focused 2 Grief 1 Medical and treatment 1 CBT 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2 After a row 1 Coming and going 1

Every feeling comes with something it wants you to do. Catching the move before you make it is most of the skill.

Anger wants to push, fear wants to get out of the room, sadness wants to curl up, shame wants to disappear. None of that is wrong, and the trouble is…

A minuteEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 21:87

Point at the body. 'Your hands went up just then', or 'you put your head in your hands', gives a feeling something solid to stand on.

Feelings argued about in the abstract go round and round. A gesture you both just watched is much harder to dispute, and it opens a door: what was…

A minuteEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:23