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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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There is motion sitting inside the word emotion. Big feelings come out through the body, so if you cannot keep still while you are grieving, that is the feeling moving rather than something going wrong with you.
Think how strange it would be if someone heard they had come into a fortune and just said thank you and carried on with the morning. Joy gets up and…
Punching something to get the anger out is the piece of grief advice that gets argued over most, and the honest answer is that hitting rarely leaves a person calmer.
Plenty of good people will tell you a bag is better than a wall or a face, and there is something in that. What has not held up is the older idea…
Give the anger a room rather than a target. Music up loud, walk fast, dance badly, shake your arms out until something in you settles.
Some children's grief centres keep a padded room where a child can go in and move however they need to, with nothing to hit and nothing to break.…
Write the exact thing you are furious about on a paper plate, tape it to the wall, and throw wet cotton balls at it. It sounds childish, and it does more than swinging at nothing.
Half the good of it is in the writing. Vague anger has to become a sentence before it can go on the plate, and reading that sentence back usually…