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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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2 practicesHow long you have · Twenty minutes
Approach · Parts work
For some young people self-harm carries something besides relief: belonging, recognition, a name for who they are among friends who do the same.
That is uncomfortable to sit with and it changes what helps. If a behaviour is the reason someone feels understood, taking it away without touching…
Ask what the behaviour does for them, and then ask how they would like to feel instead. Both questions open more than telling them to stop ever does.
The first question maps what is being managed: numbness, rage, panic, a need to make something visible. The second gives you a goal in their words…