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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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2 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Approach · Body based
Before telling someone what you have noticed about them, ask whether they want it. Do you mind if I offer something back to you? Then describe only what you saw, plainly.
Close attention is not neutral for a person who grew up being watched for a reason. Asking first turns being observed into something they agreed to,…
Say it plainly: my anger is allowed here. It is a healthy feeling and it is usually the thing telling me where a line should go.
For anyone who learned that their anger made them dangerous or unlovable, it now arrives with shame attached, and the shame is what turns it into…