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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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2 practicesHow long you have · Twenty minutes
Approach · Trauma informed
When · Any ordinary day
When a child cannot stop what is happening, the mind often settles on the one explanation that leaves some control: it must be me. Being powerless and being at fault are not the same thing, though they can feel identical.
Try separating what was genuinely within your reach at that age from what you assumed, or were told, was your job. A child cannot make a parent stop…
A child facing a frightening parent often reaches for the safer story: I am the bad one and they are fine. It costs the child their sense of worth and buys them a world that still makes sense.
If that bargain feels familiar, notice that it was clever rather than foolish. A small person who depends on someone cannot afford to know that…