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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
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3 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Approach · Trauma informed
Shame speaks in one flat sentence: I am bad. Notice that it never offers evidence, it just announces a verdict.
Because the claim covers all of you, no good day can disprove it. That is what makes it different from ordinary regret, which points at one thing you…
If you can see shame arriving in someone, say so gently and make it welcome. Something like: it looks like there is some shame here, and it is alright that it came.
Naming it does the opposite of exposing it. Left unnamed it works away in private, and the person assumes you have noticed and are judging. Said out…
You were the child. They were the adults. Say it as often as you need to, because shame will keep quietly filing it the other way round.
It is not an argument to win, more a fact to keep returning to. When a memory arrives with you cast as the guilty one, try describing the same scene…