Low mood and hard feelings

Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.

Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.

When a thought lands hard, ask whether you know it for certain, and what you would actually put forward if you had to make the case. Then go looking for the bits that point the other way.

Do this once you have settled a little, not in the worst of it, or the questions become another way of arguing with yourself. Write the answers down…

Notice the standard you are holding yourself to, then ask whether you would hold anybody else to it. If what you blame yourself for happened when you were a child, ask honestly whether a child could have carried that.

Shame usually rests on a rule that was never said out loud, something along the lines of I should have known, or I should have stopped it. Written…

Picture somebody you love saying this exact thought about themselves. What would you say back, and why is none of that available to you?

Most of us are far kinder outward than inward, and the kind version is usually the more accurate one as well as the warmer one. Say your answer to…

Imagine yourself some years from now, well past this, and let that version of you say something to you about today. Write down whatever arrives.

It sounds like a party trick and it usually is not. The future you tends to speak in a tone you cannot yet manage towards yourself, less panicked and…