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Focus, starting, and ADHD
Most advice about focus is written for a brain that starts easily. This area is not. It covers what ADHD actually is, how to make a start when starting is the hard part, how to bring a future consequence close enough to feel, and how to stop paying for it in shame.
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It is a genuine relief to hear that what someone did online may not reflect who they are. Say that gently, and say the other half in the same breath: the people who saw it will judge it as though it does.
Both halves are true and they need each other. Offer only the first and you have handed over a reason for nothing to change. Offer only the second…
When someone says they did not really mean it, that it was not really them, the temptation is to hear an excuse. It is usually better information than that.
Take the disowning seriously and ask what state it came out of. What time was it, how long had they been online, what had happened that day, had they…