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Focus, starting, and ADHD
Most advice about focus is written for a brain that starts easily. This area is not. It covers what ADHD actually is, how to make a start when starting is the hard part, how to bring a future consequence close enough to feel, and how to stop paying for it in shame.
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4 practicesTheme · Self-compassion
How long you have · A minute
The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.
People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…
Everyone has something about themselves they wish were different, and something they cannot do reliably however much they mean to. Yours has a name and a good deal of research behind it, which is not the same as being uniquely broken.
Say this carefully, because there is a careless version that does real damage. Everyone is a bit ADHD is not what is meant, and it leaves a person…
One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.
Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…
When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.
The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.