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Grief and loss
Grief is not a problem to be solved and it does not run to a schedule. What helps is letting the wave come, keeping the bond rather than severing it, and being cared for while you carry it.
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How long you have
When grief rises like a wave, let it come and let it pass. Do not brace against it or push it down.
Grief arrives in waves, not a straight line. A wave allowed to rise will also fall. Fighting it is what makes it last.
Let yourself weep. Tears over someone you love are not a failure of faith or of strength.
Crying is not the opposite of patience. It is the body grieving honestly, and it passes more cleanly when it is not shamed.
Take the sorrow you cannot say to anyone else and pour it out to God, in your own plain words.
You do not have to hold it alone or find the right phrase. Say the raw thing to the One who already knows it.